Our Guest blogger Charlotte Brown shares her insights and thoughts on how to navigate and establish a healthy and successful work/life balance.
This is part 4 out of 12.
Working with Imposter Syndrome
Have you ever felt like a fraud at work? That you don’t deserve success and could be exposed as not having a clue what you’re doing? If so, you’ve probably been experiencing a psychological phenomenon called ‘Imposter Syndrome’. It’s a heady mix of fear and self doubt that’s surprisingly common. It’s believed that 70% of people suffer from imposter syndrome during their working life – and it’s doing no one any favours.
With imposter syndrome, no one is immune. It’s not just those new to a role or at the start of their career that it strikes. People who are really thriving at work and considered successful are equally susceptible, in fact, the better you are doing the more opportunity imposter syndrome has to rear its ugly head.
Novelist Maya Angelou once said; “I have written 11 books but each time I think 'Uh-oh, they're going to find out now. I've run a game on everybody and they're going to find me out’”.
Angelou is at the top of her field and publically hailed as hugely successful. She’s been nominated for the Pulitzer Prize, won five Grammys and is an acclaimed author - yet imposter syndrome has her firmly in its grip. If you’re a sufferer, take comfort that imposter syndrome rarely reflects reality – it’s an emotional accumulation of all the irrational beliefs and fears we have about ourselves.
It was the 1970’s when psychologists first identified imposter syndrome, but it’s still alive and kicking today, perhaps thanks to our economically unstable, highly competitive labour market. As a career coach I’ve had numerous clients bring their imposter into the coaching room.
I’ve coached a marketing CEO who told me she once left midway through a meeting to read a copy of “Marketing for Dummies” she keeps in her car. A management consultant who believed at any moment a colleague could suddenly say, “What the hell are you doing here? You can’t do this job, let someone who knows what they’re doing take over” before escorting her from the building.
This particular ‘being exposed’ scenario is a common one for those with imposter syndrome to mentally play out. Artist and musician Amanda Palmer described a similar fear of someone coming knocking at her door - "I call these fictional people the ‘Fraud Police’ and they're just going to tell you: 'We figured it out, and we're taking it all away.'"
These are quite shocking examples but I’ve also seen imposter syndrome manifest more subtly, in ways that might also be holding you back from achieving career happiness.
I meet experienced professionals totally tongue tied when asked to identify skills and strengths they use every day successfully at work. Or when they are able to identify them, very quickly attribute them to external forces. I’ve seen CVs brimming with evidence of ability and accomplishment but described as being down to luck, or timing, the input of others or result of good blagging. This mind set won’t help us perform well at interviews or in networking situations, when succinctly and confidently being able to tell someone what we have to offer can open doors to new opportunity.
The bad news is, if you’re a sufferer it’s not likely you’ll ever be able to fully rid yourself of imposter syndrome. But the good news - there are ways to beat it!
Tina Fey shared her approach to tackling imposter syndrome saying; “you just try to ride the egomania when it comes and enjoy it, and then slide through the idea of fraud.” Here are my thoughts on how to banish the imposter and embrace your worth.
1. Acknowledge it – being able to recognise what it is when it arises is half the battle. Read up and then talk to others when you feel its grip. Seeing the response from others about your fears or hearing their own can be all you need to put your imposter to bed.
2. Challenge it – record evidence of your successes and achievements to refer to. It could be a simple list on your phone to read through or a symbol of your achievements such as an award or certificate. Presenting yourself with some kind of hard evidence should help to dissipate the feeling.
3. Embrace it – If you sufferer you’re likely to be successful at work and humble to boot. Take comfort that it’s very unlikely you’re a narcissist or psychopath if you have imposter syndrome ;)
4. Shift it – is there a particular event that triggers your imposter? Can you acquire more skill or knowledge to help combat it? Turn your fear into curiosity and use it to grow and learn.
Perfectionism is imposter syndrome feeding ground, accept that sometimes good enough is, well, good enough. Being kinder and more accepting of ourselves could be the first step needed to banish imposter syndrome and allow us to really flourish professionally.
Feel like you still need more help? Get in touch to find out how career coaching can help you achieve career and life success and balance: